Are you a good kisser?
I recently asked someone this question and as soon as I asked it I realized I don’t think they are qualified to answer that question. If you ask anybody what they like best about kissing, the answers are very different.
Think back to the different people that you have kissed in your life, each one of them had a different kissing style. Some people like to connect,some people like to lightly peck at your lips. Some people slobber, some are dry. Someone tried to eat my entire face once I think.
Sex and the City had a good episode in an earlier seasons about kissing that made me laugh. The problem in that episode was Charlotte new guy was licking her face. Then the next morning at coffee the girls were talking about the different kinds of bad kissers like the lazy tongue, the tongue flicker, and the face washer. Their advice was varied but I believe they were all pushing Charlotte to dump him.
So is being a good or bad kisser subjective? What happens when two face washers hook-up? Are they in heaven because that is how they like to be kissed? Do they realize the error in their ways, or do they secretly think the other person is such a bad kisser?
Is the mark of a good kisser someone that senses the kissing style they are being attacked with and adapts to match, assuming the way someone kisses is what they want in return? Or is there a kissing style with an 80% success rate that a good kisser does and sticks with in hopes of teaching the other kisser?
I don’t think I am done my research in this department so for now I will just bite my lip. (Oooooo yet another kissing action some people like and others don’t)
I have been told that I am a very good kisser. I have the ol’ tongue-suck technique down to a science. This should only be used when you mean business however, not recommended for your Aunt.
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admin Reply:
August 28th, 2008 at 4:58 pm
What if the person you are kissing isn’t into tongue sucking? I have met that person. They were who I referred to as the light peck of the lips person. Do you then adapt for them, or do you consider them a bad kisser?
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Jimmy Reply:
September 3rd, 2008 at 9:33 am
I think this is situational. If I am greeting a friend with a smooch to show affection, the tongue stays home. If I run into that friend, or another possible romantic opportnuity, a couple of hours later, and hanky-panky is afoot, the kiss conveys different intentions. Feeling one’s way will make it clear what kind of kisser one is dealing with. A passionate kiss need not lead to a recon mission of the mouth by the tongue, yet it still gets a fire burning. I would say a good kisser is the same as a good listener; it’s about being present and actively participating.
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Jimmmmmy-
My Aunt likes it! Dammit! I knew it was too good to last. (Are dogs ok?)
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Lets be honest here. I have kissed many guys and told them they were good kisser to make them feel good but in reality, they were not.
I think it all comes with the passion behind it and what you feel for the person. You can be the best kisser in the world but if I am not into you, it just won’t be good to me.
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admin Reply:
August 28th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
Interesting take on the issue, I will have to see if that affects my judgment on kissing.
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