So this post is going to count as both a post and my Sex and the City status update. As I watched Season 2 the question of anonymity came up. Ever since I started this website I have been wondering how to control (and to what extent) aspects of anonymity on my blog. So far with minor tweaks those issues have been working themselves out. Watching Sex and the City has brought more questions to the horizon though.
Most of you know that if something embarrassing happens to me I am usually the first person you hear about it from. I am pretty open and if it made me laugh I usually like to pass on the favor :-). So no problem sharing stories about my life. When other people are involved in those stories well that muddies the situation. I usually share more than I probably should and though I would love to be an open book, I have to think about security. Having family, friends, co-workers, fellow Canadians and now 12 other countries (welcome Switzerland and the reader from Hawaii!) reading this blog it can make security a challenge.
I look at how free Carrie is when she is writing her column. That column contains pretty personal, private, and very embarrassing details of many people’s lives. When the screen pans to a shot of Carrie’s computer we all see what she is writing.
However when that screen goes to print the rest of New York and the world is going to see it too. Before you get all jumpy, yes I know that this example is fiction, but I think the situation makes a good example.
In Season 1 Carrie writes about her friend’s husband flashing her in the Hamptons, friends having threesomes, a public figure and his bad breath the list goes on. Season 2 she writes about how Samantha is upset with the size of her boyfriend’s manhood. So I ask you how does Carrie get away with writing such personal details without exposing people? Has she ever been confronted because of something she wrote? I seem to recall she has but I haven’t gotten to that episode yet.
So bringing this all home what does this mean for my blog? Using fake names isn’t enough but could help in some situations. I could get utterly vague but that makes for a confusing story and often looses the original impact. Maybe I have to write down things I want to talk about and when enough time has passed I can bring them out of hiding. Leave me your thoughts, if you are as stumped as I am… well we will figure it out together as I post away and learn.
So…. Here goes with the first attempt at such a story.
Break-up rules. Are there such blanket statements or is each break-up so different that you would be foolish to apply rules? I had always heard that for each year of a relationship you require 1 month to recover before you can move on. On Sex and the City Charlotte states that you need half of the time you were together before you can get over someone. So if you dated for 1 year you would need 6 months to deal with the emotions of ending it. I posed this question to some co-workers today and one told me “For guys it takes about two days”. I very much don’t agree with that. Another girl said “Depends on what’s lined up on the other side”. That I can understand better because it lines up more with fate. However even if someone was on the other side… Are you ready or do your heart, emotions, and head need time?
Rules shmules..if it was a “real” realtionship you don’t get over it in a snap, and some time will have to pass before you can move on confidently and honestly…although the amount of time would vary depending on the intensity of the relationship. (As opposed to the length of time you are together).
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